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Becoming Myself: Meeting the Woman I was Always Meant to Be

Monday, December 01, 2025

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Becoming Myself: Meeting the Woman I was Always Meant to Be

I never expected my life to loop back to the girl I once was, the one who hid in the corner of the school library in Ireland, legs curled beneath her, face buried in the worlds of Katherine Cookson and Gone With the Wind. I can still feel the weight of those books in my hands, the scent of old paper, the sense that I was peeking into lives so impossibly big, bold, and distant from my own rural reality.

Back then, I adored the women who did things differently.

Women who refused to accept the roles they were handed.
Women who travelled beyond the edges of their villages.
Women who trusted their desires - even the inconvenient ones.
Women who created their own independence in times when that wasn’t expected of them.

They were complicated, layered, flawed, beautiful in their strength. They made choices that terrified those around them. They were called “too much,” “too wild,” “too ambitious,” and they kept going anyway.

I remember thinking: I want to be like them.
But at the same time: That could never be me.

I was a little girl in a tiny Irish library. My world was narrow and familiar; my future felt already sketched out. I didn’t know anyone who travelled the world. I didn’t have models of women living life on their own terms. And I certainly didn’t imagine I could one day become the kind of woman I admired in those stories - independent, adventurous, self-directed.

But life has a way of surprising us… often slowly, quietly, and only visible when we look back.

The Life I Never Thought I’d Live

In my twenties and thirties, I began saying yes to things that made no logical sense… but felt right in my bones.

A job opportunity abroad.
A plane ticket purchased on a whisper of intuition.
A relationship to a place I’d never been, but somehow already loved.

I moved to the Middle East.
Then to Singapore.
Then to France.
Then a return to Asia.

Each move was a shedding, an initiation, a step into a version of myself I’d never met before.
Along the way, I reinvented myself - again and again. Not from a place of running away, but from a deep, aching desire to meet my true self. 

But what shaped me most wasn’t the travel.

It was the emotional work.
The years of self enquiry, energy healing, inner child work, somatic processing, and peeling back layer after layer of who I thought I had to be.
The nights I cried because letting go hurt.
The days I rebuilt myself one breath at a time.
The willingness to face the shadows so I could finally feel free.

I didn’t always see my own strength.
I didn’t always recognize the courage it took to choose myself.
I didn’t always notice the quiet ways I was becoming the woman I once idolized.

The Moment Everything Landed

A few weeks ago, I was journaling, nothing special, nothing dramatic. One of those slow, reflective mornings where the air feels soft and the world moves gently.

I wrote a sentence and stopped.
Then I read it again.

“I have become the woman I used to dream about."

And something cracked open inside me, like a door I didn’t know I had closed.

Tears came fast.
Not the pretty kind.
The deep, shaking kind that comes from recognition, from truth, from coming home to yourself.

For a moment, I saw her, the younger me, in that school library, legs tucked under her, hair falling into her face, reading about brave women and imagining impossible futures.

And I wondered:
What would she think if she could see me now?

Not the external accomplishments.
Not the travel.
Not the reinventions.
But the woman I’ve become on the inside.

The way I trust myself now.
The way I honor my own voice.
The way I choose spaciousness over hustle.
The way I’ve built a life based on alignment, not expectation.
The way I let myself be seen, even when it scares me.

And suddenly, I could feel her.
My younger self.
Not as a memory, but as a presence.
Proud. Soft. Steady.

She looked at me with wide, grateful eyes and said:

“I’m proud of you.
You’ve done the work.
You are enough.
You’ve helped me realize all my dreams.
Now it’s time for you to let your successes land
and celebrate who you’ve become.”

I cried harder.
Because I realized how rarely I stop to acknowledge… myself. My growth. My courage. My journey. How often I move onto the next thing without letting the last thing truly integrate.

It’s the classic emotional projector (Human Design) always refining, always evolving, always learning from lived experience. But she reminded me: this is also a moment to celebrate.

To let the love in.
To let the pride land.
To let myself feel the fullness of who I’ve become.

A Message for You, Too

If you’re reading this, I want to offer you a gentle moment of reflection:

What would your younger self think of you now?

Not about how much you’ve earned.
Not about how many clients you’ve booked.
Not about how polished your brand looks.

But about who you’ve become.

Would she be amazed by your bravery?
Would she be proud of your resilience?
Would she be in awe of the risks you’ve taken, the ways you’ve shown up, the strength you didn’t know you had?

I believe she would.

Because you’ve survived everything so far.
You’ve kept going through the messy chapters.
You’ve made decisions she never imagined were possible.
You’ve built a life, maybe imperfect, maybe evolving - but a life she couldn’t have even dreamed of at her age.

And like my younger self told me, she’d likely say:

“Let it land.
Celebrate yourself.
You’ve come so far.”

If This Resonates… You Are Exactly Who the Venus Image Code Program™️ Is For

So many of the performers, creatives, and big-hearted, visibility-shy women I support struggle with this exact thing:

They don’t see themselves clearly.
They can’t feel their own progress.
They’ve outgrown old identities but haven’t fully claimed the new ones.
They’re standing in a version of their life they once dreamed of -
but they can’t feel that they’ve arrived.

If that’s you, you’re not alone.

This is the Core Invisibility Wound.
And it’s exactly what we heal inside The Venus Image Code™️ Program.

It’s a space for the sensitive, soulful, ambitious woman who wants to finally see herself - fully, honestly, lovingly.
To step into visibility with softness instead of self-doubt.
To reclaim the parts of her identity she has dimmed or deferred.
To integrate her success rather than continually chasing the next milestone.

Performers and creatives especially thrive here because they often carry the deepest version of this wound:
“No matter how much I do, it still never feels like enough.”

But it is.
You are.

And your younger self already knows that.

As I write this, I feel that little Irish girl beside me again, dreamy, hopeful, believing in stories bigger than her world allowed.

I want to honor her.
I want to thank her.
And I want to keep becoming the woman she always believed I could be.

My hope is that you do the same.

Revisit your childhood dreams.
Reclaim the parts of you that once felt impossible.
Recognize how far you’ve already come, even if it’s hard to see.

And if you’re ready to be witnessed, supported, and truly seen as the woman you’ve become and the woman you’re becoming, I’d love to welcome you inside The Venus Image Code™️ Core Invisibility Wound Program.

It’s time to let your own success land.
It’s time to celebrate who you have become❣️

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